I am learning an age old technique that sometimes works to get someone to be more interested in me. Sometimes, it's accidental. Other times, it seems to be second nature.
The trick is to only glance at the person that's interested in you and then turn your gaze slightly to the side, as if you didn't notice them approaching, slowly beginning a grin as you still watch them in the peripheral vision.
I did this once by accident by turning and walking away slowly after I saw someone that I like to dance with take a detour off the dance floor looking for a new partner. I made sure that he saw me turn. Before I made it to my seat, he had swung around me and offered his hand for a dance.
And last night, it worked again, as after watching the dancers on the floor, I saw someone I know suddenly freed from the last dance partner, glanced at him as he was moving in my direction, and slid my glance slightly to the side and down, watching him approach with his hand out out of the corner of my eye.
It seems that there's an art, that really gentle guys like a "shy" appreciation but not a lingering stare. It's like you are saying to them, You seem a little interesting, but I'm not obsessed with you.
Every time, it seems that when I have tired from watching the dance floor, or was just bored with looking around and trying to not stare, I would accidentally get attention, yet nice attention.
Hugs,
Sophie
